Small historic wedding venue – etiquette still important
Having your wedding ceremony at Florida’s finest historic wedding venue can be a bit more informal than a traditional church wedding. However, even if you choose the intimate setting of our Old Fashioned Southern Historic wedding venue, there are still items of common courtesy that guests should follow. The following is an article that was orginally published by CBC news and does a great job of itemizing the top nine mistakes that guests should avoid at any wedding.
Wearing white and 9 other wedding faux pas
Weddings have changed a lot over the years, which may have guests heading to nuptials this summer unsure of the rules.
“2018 is bringing more modern concepts to weddings. While this might mean less rules to follow, it does not mean as a guest you get to ignore all the wedding faux pas,” said Amy Brace, who’s been a wedding planner for more than a decade and owns Kiss the Bride Wedding and Event Coordination.
1. Be on time
Arriving at least 10 minutes early for the ceremony “so the bride doesn’t have to wait for you as she is ready to walk down the aisle,” said Maribeth Roberts of Clinton Hills Weddings and Events in Clinton, P.E.I.
2. Don’t wear white
“Do not wear white, and men, stay away from shorts,” advises Brace. “Even in 2018 with a more modern bride, wearing white is still a huge no-no.”
This is the bride’s moment to shine — she should be the centre of attention.
“The only time this is OK is an all-white event which the couple will specify in advance,” said Brace.
“As for men and shorts, we know P.E.I.’s peak wedding season is our warmer months and our Island is known as the gentle Island, but it is still important to remember you are going to a formal event.”
3. No talking or texting
Even if the venue is less formal than a church, during the ceremony do not text or talk amongst yourselves, said Roberts.
“The couple have spent a lot of time and money on their big day and they invited you to share it with them, not someone who you are texting,” she said.
4. Limit photo-taking
“Be mindful of the professional photographer/videographer,” said Roberts. “Jumping up to take your cellphone photo in front of them can lead to missed opportunities for the professionals such as exchanging vows.”
“Technology is constantly at our fingertips this day and age so it is easy to want to capture the moment for social media as it is happening,” said Brace.
“It is important to remember for our couples this is an intimate moment and they have hired a professional to document it for them. A wedding ceremony is one of those few occasions in life you should put down your phones or cameras and just be in the moment, take it all in and share in a couple’s love.”
Many couples nowadays will ask guests to relinquish their cellphones at the entrance to the wedding, so their photos will only be professional ones and guests can enjoy the festivities tech-free.
5. RSVP properly
Remember to RSVP, and only bring the number of guests you specified, both planners said.
“Couples provide guests with plenty of notice of their upcoming wedding by sending out an invitation — a lot of final details can only be confirmed with your RSVP,” notes Brace.
“Often they ordered exactly enough food for 120 guests for example not to mention all place settings are set well ahead of the reception for the exact number of people coming. Adding an extra few people may require another table/chairs/place settings being all brought out when the meal is supposed to begin,” Roberts said.
Conversely, if you are not able to attend, RSVP promptly.
“Caterers are a huge financial expense for a couple on their wedding day and RSVPing yes without showing up is extremely disrespectful. They have taken the time to extend an invite, have accommodated for you to be there — possibly over someone else,” Brace said.
“Final numbers are always due well in advance so when you bail on a couple you leave them paying for a meal and possibly wasting food.
6. Dietary restrictions
Express dietary restrictions or needs on your reply card, said Roberts.
“If you are severely allergic to shellfish for example, the kitchen/wait staff require this information long before they are placing the plate in front of you!” she said.
7. Don’t change places
Sit where the seating plan has you designated, the planners said.
“Kitchen staff have the same table layout that was given to them by the couple — by switching you may cause yourself and someone else to get the wrong meal.”
8. Don’t over-drink
“It is never OK to be the intoxicated wedding guest,” said Brace. “A wedding is a celebration, not a backyard summer party from college. It is important to remember the meaning behind why you are there.”
“It’s not enjoyable for the couple, other guests and the bartender!” said Roberts.
Also, Roberts urges guests not to bring in outside alcohol to a licensed venue, or to drink alcohol if a venue is not licensed.
“This can cause issues for both the couple and the venue when the liquor inspector drops by,” she said.
9. Don’t bring large gifts
Many weddings these days are destination weddings — the couple is travelling to get married and may not be able to take home large gifts. Even if they are local, they may not have a way to transport gifts from the venue.
“It is important to remember as a guest, even though you might not be travelling a far distance to get to the wedding, a small gift/monetary gift is more appropriate for couples who are travelling,” said Brace.
10. Keep the speech short
“Speeches should be short and sweet,” urges Roberts. “Giving a 30-minute speech filled with college stories gets very uncomfortable for everyone present especially the bride and groom.”
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